Relationship problems are always the most prevalent issue I see at the start of a new year. Two weeks together with all the stress and strain of Christmas are the perfect way to turn up the volume on existing problems. The trouble is that people realise their relationship is struggling but end up doing more of what they have tried before. Doing more of the same thing only serves to send them round the same old loop of relationship disaster that they have been on for some time. The video tells you how to spot if your relationship is starting to break down;
Relationship problems mean working with three people simultaneously; two individuals and the third person which is the relationship. Its always more effective to work with both people in a relationship as undergoing any type of therapeutic work means change (or I’m not doing my job). Both people need to change rather than work with one whilst the others stays stuck in the same old habits. Be prepared for some tough questions about yourself and your behaviour, mending a broken relationship is never easy. It doesn’t matter at what point the relationship is at, if both are prepared to put the work in, you can make the relationship better than ever before.
I see most people after their relationship has been thrown into crisis, usually after an affair. An affair means that the relationship has broken down and that one or both had disengaged emotionally from the relationship. Think about your relationship, have you disengaged emotionally? It’s always easier to fix a relationship before an affair happens. Not sure where your relationship is up to, but just know that it’s not making you happy? Have a read of some on the articles on the website http://thecoupleconnection.net/ and see if anything resonates with you. I wouldn’t recommend paying for any of their courses because they won’t help you get to the bottom of your specific problem, you need to talk to a professional to do that. Relate also have a good website full of information and you can of course book a consultation in your area with them http://www.relate.org.uk/ . The biggest problem with Relate is that you don’t get to choose who you work with and there can be a huge mismatch between yourselves and the person you are assigned to. As with any type of therapy, you have to feel really comfortable with who you choose to work with, and confident that they will be able to help.
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
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Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
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The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.