Resilience, are we born with it or is it a learned quality? Does that question even matter? No. Why is resilience the key to a happy life?
What matters is the choices you make when you come face to face with adversity.
Yes, having resilience by the bucket loads can help you ride the storm, but that doesn’t mean your chances of surviving are scuppered if you don’t have resilience oozing out of you.
Because resilience, like most things in life, is a skill that can be taught. And the great thing about skills is that the more you practice them, the better you become at them.
Quite simply, as life gets ever more complex, our happiness tends to take a backseat as we struggle to keep our heads above water. And the more setbacks, knockbacks, falls, disappointments, failure and rejection we have to deal with, the more it wears us down.
But achieving happiness isn’t about dodging these bad experiences, no one can do that, it’s knowing what choices to make to deal with them, that will keep you buoyed up. Because the more you handle tough situations, the better equipped you become to know how to handle the next one.
So many of us strive towards living a happy life, without knowing what that actually means. We forget that in order to feel happy, we also have to feel myriad other feelings: sadness, loss, misery, struggle; because without one, the other doesn’t exist.
And there is nothing wrong with feeling any of these things. Our range of emotions are one of the great things that makes us human after all.
But if a happy life is our ultimate goal, then we need to be able to handle those times when we aren’t happy. And that is where resilience fits in.
If we want a happy life, we have to accept that with the good comes the bad, and it’s how we bounce back from the bad that determines the quality of our lives. By being able to live without fearing the bad times, by being able to handle every challenge and disaster that life throws at you and come out of it the other side – by being able to manage these emotions and stressors, is the key to a happy life.
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.