Strange title, I know, but people who suffer from anxiety spend their lives contemplating this question, anxiety sufferers blight their lives wondering ‘what if?’. Anxiety always seems to be the lesser known sibling to depression in that more people tend to understand and accept depression as being a fact of life and less people seem to understand what anxiety is all about. Most drivers will know what I mean what I tell them to imagine that horrible feeling you get when you realise you’ve narrowly missed hitting another car; you feel as if you’re going to be sick, life passes in slow motion and you are gripped by a paralysing fear as if you are about to die……anxiety sufferers feel this horrific feeling many times a day and spend their lives trying to avoid feeling like this which becomes part of the problem.
Let me give you an example; if you feel anxious in the queue at Sainsbury’s one day, chances are you will do your best to avoid standing in the queue at Sainsbury’s. You may decide that you can’t risk standing in any queue in case you have a panic attack in front of strangers. In fact you may decide that being out in public is just risky generally, it makes you feel terrible and you constantly think about all the ‘what ifs’. So you come up with what you decide is the best solution…….you’ll avoid going out where there are people in order to keep yourself ‘safe’.
The problem with this strategy is that your ‘safe bubble’ starts to get smaller and smaller and you never actually get to disconfirm that these ideas are not true because you are so busy avoiding things that could be anxiety inducing. I absolutely hate seeing people who have been stuck at this point for years with no idea how to stop this cycle happening, especially when there is something really effective that can help. CBT is absolutely the best thing for anxiety. As soon as people walk through my door I know that they have all the skills to stop the anxiety. You may not want to hear this, but your mind has created the anxiety, so you already have what you need to sort it out, I just need to show you how to start turning the wheel the other way!
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It’s great to have a leading psychologist such as Wendy in the Manchester area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.