Not playing together anymore
Life is busy, but when you realise that you’ve stopped making time to do things together and enjoying each other’s company, the relationship is in trouble. Being in a relationship is about wanting to be with that person because you, well……you just love spending time together and sharing your life with them. Fix this as a priority. It doesn’t have to be anything ground breaking, a walk with the dog, a drink in the pub, a meal out, easy things.
We all multi task from time to time and have conversations whilst doing at least another 2 or 3 other things at the same time. The problem occurs when you feel that you are constantly not heard, that you are constantly side lined for texting, emails, watching TV or just have a feeling that all the right sounds are being made but your partner isn’t REALLY listening. ENGAGE with your partner and really hear what they are saying, not because you think you should, but because you are genuinely interested in how they are, how their day went, and most importantly that you care.
Part of a normal relationship is that there always a few underlying irritants about each other. When these turn into full on criticism that becomes a constant feature, you need to address this quickly. A successful relationship is one where we are aware of each other’s faults but find ways to manage them that keep both people happy. Whatever the irritant is, there is always a way to negotiate a solution. Sometimes involving a third party helps to apply a bit of lateral thinking on the problem rather than being stuck within the boundary of your own opinion.
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.