Interestingly I’ve had a few negative comments about a few words I have written about suicide. Obviously I’ve deleted the comments. I’m always really happy to reply to any comment, good or bad, but only when they are well thought out and reasoned arguments, rather than comments from the (at best) misinformed. I know that lots of people will shy away from writing about very contentious issues, things that people ‘don’t really like to talk about’. In my opinion not talking about mental health issues is something that just perpetuates mental health and makes people with problems feel like it’s something that sets them apart from others, that they are the only ones struggling. Stigma around mental health problems means people are less likely to get help or support from others.
Apart from seeing clients on a one to one and group basis, I work for a couple of hospitality companies handling their critical incidents and also do some consultancy for victims and families affected by injury and fatality. When I’m sat with the families of somebody who has recently committed suicide, the question they most want answered is ‘why’, what happened, why did they feel that this was the only alternative? The knowledge I’m able to give to people helps them make sense of a terrible tragedy, and to understand more about something that ‘society’ often dictates shouldn’t be spoken about.
Why on earth should we not talk about suicide? It’s devastating, of course it is, but feeling that it’s something you can’t talk about only makes it worse. Last week I spoke to the mother of somebody who had committed suicide and she told me that she notices people crossing the street rather than speak to her because they don’t know what to say. Let’s all help to make suicide or mental health problems of any kind something you can talk about.
So NO! I’ll never shrink away from writing about things that some may find ‘offensive, distasteful or uncomfortable’ because these are never words that should be associated with mental health issues.
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t.
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychologist such as Wendy in the Manchester area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.