If you suffer from anxiety, you’re probably aware of how it can work its way into every aspect of your life, and if you’re in a relationship, you’re probably anxious that it may infiltrate said relationship. So – How do you prevent anxiety from infiltrating your relationship?
Maybe anxiety has already clawed its way in, but it doesn’t have to put down roots and stay. You can prevent anxiety from infiltrating your relationship; you have the power to prevent it.
All relationships work on mutual trust, love, patience and vulnerability, but for those suffering with anxiety, relationships can mean added stress, creeping doubts and unnecessary worries.
These things have a habit of creating rifts between people, because when you suffer with anxiety, it can become incredibly hard to see the wood for the trees – to separate out what is worth feeling anxious over, versus what isn’t.
So it’s this muddy area that tends to make anxiety sufferers feel insecure in their relationship. This is no one’s fault. Remember that, anxiety is a condition that skews how sufferers view their world, their relationships, but it can be treated.
1. If you suffer with anxiety, speak to someone.
See a trained professional who can help you learn positive coping methods, who can help you deal with your anxiety in a constructive manner.
By understanding what it is that is making you think the way you do, you can take action to turn the negative thoughts around. And don’t forget to get outdoors and do some exercise.
Exercise is one of the best anxiety reducing strategies there is, and recent research suggests that exercise is as powerful as anxiety medication in reducing anxiety symptoms.
2. Try and remain in the present.
One of the worst things you can do is to let your anxiety take you away from the moment, making it tough for you and your partner to feel connected, which can lead to feelings of neglect and arguments.
3. One of the biggest problems that anxiety leads to is issues of trust.
Because anxiety causes you to feel out of control, you naturally are less secure, and when you don’t feel secure, it can lead to issues of trust in your relationship.
Anxiety can cause jealousy and insecurities, mistaken beliefs that your partner isn’t being faithful.
If the trust is truly gone, why not ask your partner if you can start over? Date as if you’ve only just met. Trust needs foundations, so let it take seed.
4. Never forget the power of touch.
Touching, holding hands or cuddling, even when you’re really cross with your partner is wonderfully calming. Simply connecting with another person is grounding, and something worth doing at the end of a long and busy day. It reminds each of you that you have someone there for you.
Laughter is one of the best natural cures of alleviating feelings of anxiety. So put something funny on the TV, go to a comedy club, or just chat with good friends.
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
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