Paying attention to too much detail is the easiest way in the world to make yourself stressed and ensure that you feel totally overwhelmed with life. Some people are naturally ‘detail’ orientated and their default setting is to focus on the small details in life. This naturally detailed approach to the world is fantastic if you want a really precise job doing, but incredibly challenging if you add a sprinkling of life stress to the mix. People who are naturally ‘big thinkers’ who see the world in large chunks and find it difficult to apply themselves to small detail can suffer stress in a similar way. Big thinkers have a tendency to take too much on which means that they will be even less effective at finishing tasks or doing the detail. For these people the sheer volume of tasks starts to feel overwhelming and they feel totally out of control of their world and although normally unconcerned with detail, the slightest thing will then feel huge.
So once you find yourself in this state, or well on the way, what’s the best thing to do?
Offload. Whether you’re a detail or a big picture person you need to offload all the things you do that just aren’t important. You need to do with your life what you do with that drawer full of rubbish that ‘may just come in handy’. Strip out anything non-essential, or anything that takes more energy than it gives; that includes people, responsibilities and thoughts.
Relax. Take some time to relax. Just lie on your sofa and listen to some music or download a relaxation track. Headspace is a very useful website, have a look round to find a track that suits you.
Context. This is about asking yourself that ‘does it really matter; will anybody die?’ question. When people suffer from stress or anxiety a part of the problem will be that they are making things overwhelmingly important, like their worlds will end. Put things in context against somebody you know who is having an incredibly tough time, illness, death etc. this will help you feel that the things you are struggling with can be overcome and minimise their importance.
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