I’m a bit of an old romantic….actually, that’s a total understatement. I’m a ridiculous, overly sentimental sucker for love and romance, whose favorite book is Wuthering Heights. I know that’s probably difficult to believe with my small person syndrome/Scrappy-Doo exterior, but that’s just how it is. Unlike some psychologists who consider themselves far too important to want any client without a bona fide mental health problem, I enjoy working with relationship problems. If somebody comes in for a consultation about depression or anxiety, it’ll be creating havoc with their relationships. Just as much as a relationship problem may be contributing to depression or anxiety. If I can help somebody find their way back to love, I’m just as happy as I am helping to shift panic attacks.
Anyone who’s met me will know that I often use the term ‘vanilla’ relationship when talking about love. I use this to describe a ‘nice’ relationship that’s very bearable and makes you quite happy, but at the same time is very mediocre. Not everyone has the good fortune to ever meet someone they just love intensely. If you’ve experienced it, you’ll know what I mean….that really powerful connection with someone, that’s just there almost from the first time you see them. Lots of people actively choose to run a mile from this sort of relationship. They decide to pick somebody safer, who doesn’t challenge them in any way so that they can live a very pleasant, humdrum, vanilla kind of existence. And that’s great if it makes you happy, genuinely happy, but what I hear a lot about is the ‘wrong decision’ kind of relationship
Choosing a vanilla relationship over a real love connection can often come back to bite you at some point. The usual triggers are; a bit of complacency and monotony in your existing relationship, bumping into the one ‘you should’ve married’ or just feeling that you’re living life with the handbrake on. Before you decide to start making any drastic changes there’s a really important question you need to ask yourself……….is this really about your relationship, or is it about you?
I’ll write some more over the next couple of days about how to find some answers.
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t.
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychologist such as Wendy in the Manchester area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.