I’ve seen a number of patients recently experiencing Commitment Problems this is usually due to a negative past relationship where they have been very hurt, either in an intimate relationship or with a parent, people become very fearful of commitment. Men seem to more vulnerable to this problem than women often due to that fact that women tend to be a lot ‘braver’ in allowing themselves to become emotionally hurt.
Men and women with problems on commitment are very tortured and full of fear. They are in a constant state of emotional conflict because of their negative irrational beliefs about love, commitment and relationships. In relationships they create great confusion, havoc, pain and anguish as their behaviors are often insensitive, unpredictable and just downright strange.
Commitment phobics can make people who are saints turn into crazy people, as they play games with their minds and their hearts.
Below is a list of the types of behaviors commitment phobics will typically show;
They often choose to travel a lot for work, to play a lot of sport, or be involved in many projects to create distance.
These people know on some level that they are deceptive and cruel to people and often have a lot of guilt and shame about it.
The word “forever” terrifies these people. Love doesn’t scare them; rather it is what love represents to them that scares them. This is due to their negative damaged belief system about love and relationships.
Those who experience Commitment Problems usually end up behaving worse and worse, and they sabotage more and more because they want the other person to end the relationship as they feel too anxious and guilty to do so.
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