I know it seems like an odd statement but we actually all need a bit of stress to get things done. With all the hype that is around currently around about the benefits of ‘mindfulness’ and ‘living in the moment’ I feel that there is a general tipping towards people thinking that any stress in their lives is a problem, but we all need a certain amount of stress. Think about it – if you never felt any pressure, how would you get anything done? Signs of stress include;
Symptoms affecting your thought processes
Symptoms affecting your behaviour
We tend to use the word ‘stress’ as a word to mean that we are struggling to cope with life when in fact what we really mean is that we feel ‘out of control’. Ask yourself a couple of questions;
If you answered yes to the first question you will probably be creating stress for yourself and are also opening the door for anxiety to step in to your world. You possibly need some help in addressing the way in which you problem solve & view things, which is the basic premise of CBT.
Answering yes to the second question means that there are factors in your world creating stress and pressure for you that you can’t avoid. You can alleviate this type of stress by helping yourself to feel more in control of a situation.
Tips for coping
Take the stress at the top of your list and work through the options for coping listed below. Start with the first, action-oriented, and if that’s not possible, move on to the next. Over time, you should be able to move through all the stresses on your list. But don’t try to take on too many changes at once. Every time you deal with a single stress, you’ll have less on your plate, so it should be easier to deal with the next.
If you can change it, change it. It could be saying no to that extra bit of work. It could be standing up to your partner about taking on some extra jobs.
If you can’t change it, can you change the way you look at it? Don’t think about all the things you haven’t got done, make a list of all the things you’ve managed to finish and congratulate yourself.
Look after yourself physically, and you’ll be able to cope with stress much better.
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